Why i don't like "Women's day"

I don’t like anyone putting my gender on a pedestal. It reeks of reverse snobbery, it is quite like positive discrimination.

The condescending way in which everyone is reminded to ‘’respect’’ women makes me wonder how we take this, year after year. Why should there be any question of respecting women ? Are we so imbecile that we have to remind ourselves to respect one half of the world ? Why do we have to overcompensate in this self congratulatory way ?

The ones who are asking us to respect women often remind us that women are ‘strong’, whatever that means. I know for sure that I am NOT strong. I am not patient. I am hardly a nurturing goddess.

 I am a human being, just like anyone else – I have needs, desires. I get tempted sometimes.  When I feel hurt, I cry. I often lose my patience – and when I do, I shout, I explode, I throw things at people. No, I am not strong. Sometimes I need the strength of all the people in my life to feel barely coherent.

 I don’t claim to love my children more than my husband does. How can that happen ? We are BOTH parents. He loves and cares for them as much.

 I don’t claim to love my career less than the men in my field of work. After all, we all have studied and worked equally hard to get here.  I am passionate about my work. I sometimes work for hours and hours without a break, and I love the feeling of sheer exhaustion at the end.  

 I don’t claim to cry in sad movies – I sometimes laugh through them. I am into shopping as much as a man would be. Not more, not less. I don’t cling to any man. I would rather cling to a good book. I don’t really have any significant nesting instincts. I sometimes get very bored when I am home bound.

 I am not graceful. I am as clumsy as a klutz. I am not ‘adjusting’ or ‘compromising’. These are beautiful sounding words to force a person to kill his or her spirit in order to serve others’ selfish interest. I am unapologetically heartless at times – If someone has put me off, he/she earns his/her right to remain in my black book, for life. No, I don’t like to give people a second chance.

 I take each day as it comes, and try to do my best to justify my life on earth.

 Simone de Beauvoir  said ““One is not born a woman, one becomes one.” Maybe, I did not 'become a woman’ then.

 And its not a ‘’happy’’ women’s day, if we are still celebrating this. We need to realize that we don’t need to give women ‘special’ privileges. They can do very well without them, thank you very much.